Stop Being Dumb, Love

I wish we could all have a list of reviews to read about someone before we date them/develop further interest, like before we make a purchase.

X rated 3 star - "Dated this guy. Definitely a cutie but was an ass the whole time. Will not get back together even if I could."

Y rated 5 star - "Best bf ever. I suck :("

Z rated 1.5 star - "Son of a bitch"

Isn't it easier like this?

Sometimes, I just wish that I can stop being a dumb-ass. As many times as I've looked myself in the mirror, cursed and scolded the shit out of myself but still can't stop making dumb decisions.

Here's to myself, maybe it's to you too if you need it,

Just because he holds your hand in public doesn't mean his heart is yours. Just because he hugs and gives you cute forehead kisses means that you're the love his life. Just because he surprise texts or calls you to say that he misses you or to tell you that he loves you means that he won't cheat on you.

Stop justifying shit to make yourself miserable. It's not worth it, he's not worth it.

"Girl you're solid gold, but he prefers stone." - Anonymous 

“Choose people who chooses you”

I think we’ve all heard of this phrase quite often, but do you just like and agree on those picture quotes on Instagram or do you really mean it?

I’m definitely guilty of constantly agreeing with those posts, liking them and sharing them on my insta stories but never really mean it. Reason is that I’ll always think that maybe it’s just this season that they’re really busy, have a lot of things to do, other commitments to fulfil, and many more other reasons that I constantly give myself to justify it. People who chooses you, will never give up on you. No matter how hard it gets. People who chooses you, will want to make things work and losing you is never a choice that they’re willing to make. People who chooses you, will never let you go.

Choose people who chooses you. Stop justifying their behaviour to make yourself feel better for that short period of time.

Want or Need?

Many told me that they need me in their life (mostly exes) but eventually when the relationship ended they live like usual. So nah, it's obvious they don't need me cause if they do, they wouldn't discard me like how they did right? Human need their basic needs according to Maslow Hierarchy of Needs, which are food, water, air, warmth, love. But love can be from family, friends and your significant other. But to me, I don't think you really need anybody in your life. Cause personally, when you say you need someone, it's like you can't live without them and when this person cease to exist you'll die too. But, I don't think that's the case. 

To me, saying that you need someone is almost the same as pickup lines and mundane sweet talks. However, saying that you want someone in your life, that is different. Cause you made the choice to want this particular human to be in your life, to include this person in your every day routine and choices that you're gonna make. That is romantic, or at least to me. You can tell a million others that you need them in your life or probably can make it more cheesier than this, but honest to heart, would you really want them in your every day life for the rest of your life? 

So my point is, you don't really need a particular person in your life. But you can make the choice of who do you want in your life. And if I say I want you in my life, I am nowhere near kidding about it. Because I made that choice to want you, and I will do all I can to make you feel wanted and loved. At least, I think that's the best that I could do :)